Like a Phoenix Rising...

Loss is an inevitable part of life. In fact, the more you have the more you stand to lose. This spans the gamut of relationships, jobs, houses, etc. It's natural to experience loss. It's how you deal with loss that can be a true measure of who you are.

Even if you experience loss, you will have more again later. I've had some remarkable relationships that I was sad to see end. However, every time I was able to meet someone even better afterwards. It might not be a week or a month later but it will happen.

You need to learn from your losses. They teach us valuable lessons about what is important to us. Maybe we can do with less. Maybe we will be motived to regain what we lost. The key is to not give up and to continue striving to be the best we can be.

It is often quoted that the overall divorce rate in the US is around 50% (althouth it's probably somewhere between 40 and 50%). Those are dismal odds if you want a marriage that will last. The thing that is not mentioned is that the rate of remarriage is around 60%. People like to couple up. It's human nature. Most people find someone to share their lives with. That should be encouraging.

So, out of any loss comes opportunity. There's opportunity to learn more about yourself and what you want in life. You can learn from your losses but you shouldn't ruminate over them. Make your losses into positives and you will find that the things you had may not have been what was best for you in the first place.