We Need to Talk

The break is probably the most important shot in pool. If you scatter the balls and pocket one or more of them, then it was a good break and it makes the rest of the game easier. If you don’t scatter the balls very well and you don’t pocket a ball, then it wasn’t a good break and it has a bad effect on the rest of the game. What about relationships? Is there a good way to end a relationship?

Well, there’s all kind of break ups. You have the Seinfeld breakup – it’s not you, it’s me (meaning it’s definitely you, believe me), the take you out to dinner so you don't make a scene breakup, the we need to talk break up, the don’t bother returning your calls until you get the message breakup, the impersonal text break up, and the sudden breakup you don’t see coming.

So, what should you do after the break up? Sometimes we get a bit lax when we’re dating. We start turning our attention to the other person and stop doing some of the things that probably attracted them to us in the first place. After a break up, it’s important to get back to doing the things you like to do (you shouldn’t have stopped doing them just because you were dating). This will do wonders for your attitude and will make you more appealing to another person when the time comes.

Another thing to keep in mind is how temporary things are. We should enjoy the moment more. In the case of dating, you don’t know how much time you might have with the other person. People come in and out of our lives. Enjoy the time you have dating. Don’t let the whole dating thing get you down. Have fun with it. If you get into a relationship, be aware that things can happen and people change. If we keep this in mind, we can appreciate the time we spend with each other more.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how the break up goes. What’s important is how you deal with it after it’s over. You can be a cool ex or a not so cool one. You can act like a child or you can be mature about it. The way the break up happens is indicative of the maturity level of the person who initiated it. You can choose to take a break up poorly because the other person was immature or you can rise above it. It may be tough to accept but if a person is immature about the break up, then you probably don’t want them in your life.